Pruesaysit,
Are women bullshitting when they say they want a funny guy? Is it code for buff, hunky dude? Because, I’m a funny dude ya know, and sometimes I even fancy myself as a soft 7 on the scale of attraction, and I’m struggling in the action department!
Not Buff.
Dear Not Buff,
In all honesty, there’s probably many chicks using that code as dudes are ‘smart woman’ as their lingo for “as long as you’re not homely lookin’ and above a size 12″. Sure, some people use it in leiu of saying what they’d really like, and then there’s those birds that really do like a guy who can make her laugh, regardless of what what he can lift at the gym or how much machismo he throws around. Just remember, funny is as subjective as attraction. You know in the way that some people really think movies like Adaptation and Being John Malcovich are fucking riotus vs those that love a bit of Saturday afternoon Caddyshack action. Don’t understimate yourself, in a gals head, you could be the exact “buff hunky dude” she’s dreamt of, regardless of whether you apply those adjectives to yourself.
Hopin the laughs get you laid and love.
Pruesaysit,
It took me a long time to get over my ex. A long time, as in years. Because it took me so long, I really think I fucked up my chances of being with someone I really care about, He’s awesome and funny and the sexual tension between us is off the charts, but I’ve pulled away so many times that he says he’s out. He’s done chasing me. I’m sure I’ve wrecked it and I’m devestated coz I feel like I made a huge mistake…but he just makes me feel so vulnerable, almost like I can’t stand to be in his prescence? I don’t know if that makes any sense at all. I’m a complicated person. What do I do?
Brunswick Girl.
Dear Brunswick Girl,
All of us are complex in our own ways. Don’t doubt the other person involved in the situation might have as many complications as you, that might play into how they’ve reacted to the situation between you both. But all that aside, there are plenty of options here. All of them start with one question? Do you want to be with this person? If you do, then go hell for leather to win em back. But if it’s a case of you missing the playful flirty texts and a surrogate partner to prompt your ego, then do not call this guy or contact him again. He’s obviously hung on for a long time, which would indicate a depth of feeling on either his part or both your parts which you should either embrace wholeheartedly or do the right thing, and let him find someone who will love him with the passion he loves you. Tell him No, straight out. That’s all most people need to hear to move on, but it’s the “but’s” and “if” that keep us hanging. Of course, I hope it all goes well for you and you guys can work it out and work out some of that sexual tension.
Pruesaysit,
While my boyfriend of 6 months and I were broken up for a duration of 6 months, I slept with other people. He didn’t. Since we got back together, I’ve felt like he hasn’t forgivven me for sleeping with other people during our time apart. To me, I have nothing to apologise for. I feel a lot of pressure from him to satisfy his sexual ego as he suffers from some insecurities. So he constantly asks about the men I had sex with while we were apart. How big they were? How he compared? Did they make me cum? I’m torn, because at first I answered honestly when he asked me if I’d slept with others during our time away from eachother. I was honest from the get go that I had slept with other people since we were apart because I’m if nothing else, I value honesty and candidness. But his reaction makes me feel like I should’ve lied, which makes me feel like I have something to feel dishonest or sneaky about, if you get me? I love this guy heaps but how can I help him get over this?
SAS.
Dear SAS,
I get you love this guy. I get he probably loves you too. But it sounds like he loves his ego more than anything more. You guys weren’t together. It’s not as if you’d been together ten years and broken up 6 months and were shacked up with a new guy…Hell, it was a sex with a few people. I think dudes and chicks see things differently. Men seem to me more offended by the act of fucking someone else, than women are more pissed about the betrayal of trust. *Insert Glaringly Obvious Stereotype Here, but it’s applied in plenty of situations I know). There’s only so many times you can apologise, and he can’t or won’t move over it, you gotta work out whether you can live with the constant guilt or whether you’d prefer to start afresh with someone new, who isn’t going to hold your past against you.
Pruesaysit,
I’m a 28 year old straight single guy who fancies himself as okay looking and 9/10 ex girlfriends agree I’m a nice guy. You get my gist. So, here’s the thing. I love to wear womens underwear, full time. It just drives me insane. I don’t have any desire to cross dress or anything more, but I would love to find a girl who found it as sexy to see me in them, as I feel in them. I’ve had to hide it from past girlfriends who had made it clear that nothing other than vanilla was their thing. How do I bring it up in a more up front fashion in my next relationship? I don’t want to have to hide this from someone I love again, especially as it is such a sexual turn on for me, I feel like my sex life is lacking without it.
NotCozThey’reComfy
NotCozThey’reComfy,
I say as long as your kink isn’t hurting anyone unable to conscent then it’s not too provocative nowadays. Remember, back in the day, any sort of ass play was more a relationship thing, and now a finger is tryin to work it’s way in there on the first date. Things are different now, I think. More people are open about their kinks and I think that’s especially supported by online communities and the relative ease of expsosure to more kinks and fetishes than we once dreamt of. Once upon a time, I used to think of myself as a bit of a go-er but nowadays, I actually feel quite tame by comparison to a lot of folks. Guys in sexy undies is one I think most chicks could handle. I’d bring it up in a non sexual setting… like you’re skulking around looking at a catalogue and you tell her how hot she’d look in those undies…which ones you like on her…etc guage her reaction. You could start the convo with “You know, Homer Simpson wore womens underwear…but strictly for comfort purposes”, obviously”. Or you could just come out and say, you know what I’ve always felt was really hot… girls in (insert particular undie) wear! I love them. I bet they’re so soft!…I’m thinking of getting a pair!”
